Oooh....there's an idea! I actually have been seeing quite a few people who have dyed a few big chunky pieces in an underlayer a deep blue or dull pink. That seems like fun but my office would frown on it.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I usually look on line at local web sites event calendars. There is always something weird going on, but I live in the Portland area which is well....weird.
There is meetup.com which has lots of groups that do things.
Athens Greece (not Georgia) metropolitan area has a population of 3,686,371. Surely there is crazy stuff going on somewhere in that city every day.
I've tried those but there is very little going on in my area. Atlanta has lots of things going on but getting my friends to go up there is difficult in the extreme. They don't like to leave the bubble of our county very often. Funny you mention Athens, GA Kerry. There is always tons of stuff going on up there that is free or cheap because it's a college town (UGA - go DAWGS). Wish it weren't a 2 hour drive.
Gee K, there have to be all sorts of fun things going on in and around Athens that you could do. Of course, I especially love Ali's idea of quitting your job. That is my lifelong dream!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Swingcats in Athens? WOW!!!!! I need a partner though. (I have taken classes for most of the latin dances, mambo is still my favourite...)
IC was...ok. I talked, she listened and then said :so, you come across as someone torn in two. One side of you wants this desperately to work out and the other feels your H is holding you back, "freezing" your life. I said she was almost right. She said "then, break it off, he wont be doing much more than what you are getting any time soon". THANKS doc!!! Much appreciated.
She said she heard regret and grief about my choice to reconcile last year. True. She said she hears I am so deeply hurt and disapointed that he obviously hasnt realised. I am not sure about that. I think he chooses not to see it so that he wont have to act on it.
She said "stop talking about your M, you came here for you! I told her my M is my problem right now. The rest of my life is ...fine.
Not very productive. She made me feel like all this effort is useless.. K
It sounds like she is maybe better suited for marriage counseling when both people are there.
What effort?
My brother told me that a marriage should be somewhat effortless. That is how his marriage is. The husband and wife should just know what makes each other happy. They should be able to communicate freely and easily with each other.
I still dont get your H's choices. It seems his job is #1. The kids are #2. And you are #3.
If you want to stay married, you are just going to have to accept that is who he is.
Well...we know how slow he moves. And how much individual work he has to do. So, she's right. You WON'T be getting much more in the very near future.
If you are that frustrated/impatient...
You have been very forgiving, very dedicated, very supportive, for a LONG time. No one, including her, would blame you if you gave up.
Why do you feel like something needs to happen Now?
Kerry - Seems to me your brother and my XH might be related. My XH told me that M shouldn't require work either, obviously we weren't meant for each other. Especially after all I've learned, I think they're both living in a fantasy land.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Oh is my ex related?? If he had to work at it then it must not be love. Well easy as pie he found himself that doesn't have a clue who he is. He keeps trying to do things he hated before like play board games so that he will come off as some great guy. If that isn't work...
This is going to go slowly I fear, you just need to know if you are willing to hang in there.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
