I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[flowmom]

I hope you ladies don't put us guys on the boards in that same category as the WAH's.

I think the guys on the boards have a lot in common with the WAHs. The difference between a WAH and an LBH is probably mostly that the WAH is feeling more hopeless about the M...but in both cases the problems are real and likely have been for a long time.

There are patterns in how men contribute to and deal with marriage problems, whether they end up as the LBS or WAS. I see a lot of opportunities for us to support board members of the opposite sex, because of our understanding of how we experience the marriage behaviours of our spouses. WAHs and LBHs both need to understand how their failure to meet their Ws needs in the M opened to the door to later events. For reconciliation to occur, eventually WAHs and LBHs have to take responsibility for meeting their Ws needs, and not be stuck in blaming their W for everything.

PS: everything I've written above applies to WAWs and LBWs as well