I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[Quart9]

Sandi2 - I read a thread last night where you interacted with a member named Song. He was a LBH that moved out, and you discourage him from moving back in. Of course he and I's sitch were a lil different, but it seems like he and I both had put too much pressure on our W's. Unfortunately, his wife went and saw a lawyer and intiated the D and he quit posting.

Yeah my W really does seem like she likes to pretend like we are not M. To the point where I think it's beyond "cake eating." I think in "cake eating" she would actually still need to be communicating with me - which she has really stopped doing. I wish sometimes that we were fighting because I would then atleast have some communication with her.

To me its like she has me out of the house so outta sight outta mind. She doesn't seem to be in a big hurry to get the ball going on the D. My IC say she thinks it is because my W is conflicted, but I think that its because of $ - as in she doesn't want to spend the $ to get the D and she doesn't want to have to pay me spousal support after the D. She has stopped wearing her rings and it seems like she thinks that means she is D, and now she is out living the single life.

Do you really think she likes for me to romance her -how so? I broke a DB rule on 2/14. After I found out she left town I sent her a text to say Happy Valentine's Day and have a great trip. No reply. Maybe that is not really romancing but after 9 years of V day's together no reply - really?