Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans


Sadly men ARE visual.

Its unfair, God made us like that. : )

Thank you God!


Yes----I KNOW! And sadly I've let my feelings for the MAN I've loved for 30 years get me to this point! No one's fault but my own.....and no one is going to fix me but ME. (I do know that too.)

None of your suggestions are new---things I already know, but have failed with-----but will use them as a reminder and maybe put some of them in my head when I meditate. Maybe I can make them stick with me.

I really could use someone in my house telling me to STOP eating crap and someone to shop with me and not let me buy the CRAP..........basically, I need a better source of willpower than my own screwed up head.

I have been yo-yoing my way around the scale for 30 years too.........weight issues have always been part of my life (although I've neber been this heavy - non-pregnant), and H has been there the whole time. I'm sure my current shape makes me even more unattractive to him....and MLC probably makes him more visual......thanks for the reminder.


Me 45
M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08
D 18, D 14, S 12