You say your going to be nice because that is how you are.
Did you read either Divorce Busting or Divorce Remedy?
Because they are like the primer of this and then read the MLC resources.
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It hurts to read you. You don't listen...and you know what? THAT IS FINE, however after a few months of not listening AND not getting better by choosing your OWN way...most people might be open to listening to others by now.
The reason you do not have expectations: You, you are the example of what happens when you have expectations. You have them, and you are stuck.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK