Thanks for stopping by. My W has not yet gone to that extreme. One is really her's from before our R, the second is one she found just after we M. Then there's mine from before our R.
She pretty much comes to see them when she knows I'm at work. Hasn't brought any food over or anything like that. She'll even text comments like- "are you taking care of them, their coats are a mess like they aren't being petted." Of course it's winter even dowwn in S FL this year.
Cutter- I agree- lesson learned, less is more, slow is fast...W texted me that she just left the house. She thanked me for forwarding an update about my Uncle.
So bizzare- complete disregard for everything else, then a glimpse of a person w/ a soul.
Reminds me of the link you gave me Cutter- I will not reply to anything anymore b/c its turning my power over and allowing me to be roped.
lesson learned. for now on. Your private life if your private life. No need to answer on anything like that for now on. Just ignore... Its not part of your key reply items.
If it is remove
If she presses. Just reply it is none of her business. And leave it at that. Sometimes Silence says more than any words.
I agree. Maybe add "You know where I stand on fidelity, and that hasn't changed one bit."
I've learned that the bank is requesting info to secure W's debt for her business. The goal is to have her take over so my father is not on the hook anymore.
I've learned that W's friend (female) is advising that she not give the bank the info they are requesting...myself and my family are being villianized and everyone is pitted against us.
I am at my wits end and can no longer attempt to comprehend the mess our D will cause.
I know it should be none of my concern, but it is my father and I hate to see him get strung along and slow-played- simultaneously being cast as the evil FIL out to crucify his DIL...
Everything he's done and continued to do for W has been out of love-
sorry- its not that- he had the loan in his name for the last 2 years. She's to take over but cannot get one w/o securing the debt.
The bank has stated what they need, and her friend is making it seem as though the info the want is too much- like my father is trying to take advantage of her.
Bottom line- the woman knows the debt is not currently in W's name- she's prob going to ask W why she would want to take over the debt if she doesn't "legally" have to.
The bank has stated what they need, and her friend is making it seem as though the info the want is too much- like my father is trying to take advantage of her.
how do you know what her friend is making it seem?
The bank is requesting the required information, has nothing to do with your Dad. Let it be.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I agree that they are asking for required information- W's friend has instructed W to "SEND NOTHING!"
I agree it is none of my concern- I'm just angry to see the paranoia and what-have-you...it's just adding more stress and mistrust between myself, W, and parents
OK- bit of a blow out- I've been painted as a stalker b/c of my awareness of OM1 and OM2- I let W know I will not take care of her dogs while puruing other men. So I took them to the barn and had them put into her office. Naturally this didn't go over well. But at least it's done. A mutual friend of the M contacted me and spoke candidly about the sitch. She unkonwingly put W and OM2 in contact b/c OM2 wanted to get lessons for his GF- It was assumed that the knowledge I had of OM2 came from her and she wanted to confront me on it. Friend wanted to make things very clear w/ me, b/c she sees that W has not- "your W is going to D you, she will not stay married to you." I thanked friend and explained that for the first time in months W's actions are matching those words- though W would not use those words w/ me.
I am aware of the M not being an entity now, I have been for some time. I have exposed the A's- of course that will have some consequences.
Now that OM2 is aware of my knowledge, he is sending messages for me to see if I look-
I'm pretty sure I've done more damage than good from the very start. Exposing the A's is not an easy thing or popular for that matter. Especially when W makes it clear to everyone buy LBS that she's no longer M and not interested in Piecing.
Reactions. Thats all they are. Who ever calls you a stalker is not worth the time of day ( Unless its your bat scht crazy wife then its just words ) So all that talk about the dogs... Done. Over a reaction. Too bad.
How about you start thinking of Divorce for a change.
Remember she left you. Stop doing what your doing. Why did you contact your wife ? Why? Your not even capable of hearing intel from friends on your wife. So cut that out.
This is destroying you because you let it destroy you.
Stand strong on the exposure. It is the right thing to do.
Let her go.
Let her fall.
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