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[newmama]

Discussing terms of separation- what would be discussed? You don't want to blindside your H (if that's the right expression)

If your C does not mention the D word, ask about a timeline or give an ultimatum then the separation talk would be pretty safe.

But if he does ask about divorce, you should realize your H's mindset might be that he wants divorce AT THIS TIME but could change!

I would just be wary of pressure...it SUCKS ROYALLY BUT if you don't want the divorce, then he kind of IS in control of that decision since last you heard, HE wanted it.