well, it is an IC and not an MC, so I'm not so sure that's a fair standard. But it's certainly fair for YOU to realize that when she advises against the DB advice you've been given, that she does NOT have any expertise in saving marriages.
I think the goal for an IC for you is to support YOU, in your own personal growth and development, and those types of things can certainly HELP you fight for your marriage, and to set effective boundaries, communicate, etc., etc. But even as an IC, I'm kinda shocked that she would NOT think that standing up for yourself is a good idea, frankly.
