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[Lucky11too]

Aww, so hard to get mad at S, when they can just melt your heart like that. =)

So regarding H's not being able to pay bills on time, I take it that it's not b/c of not having the money, right? I just ask b/c since our H's our so similar, H has the exact same problem. I can't even count the # of times his car insurance has lapsed and relapsed. But that is actually a telling sign of ADD. It's harder to disagnose in adults b/c they don't have the hyper part of it, but it definitely affects their lives and relationships in tremendous ways. Now that I think about it, it would make sense in regards to your H, including the OW issue. He says how he knows he always has an issue having OW's and doesn't know why. People with ADD need that constant "thrill" of adreneline. So yes I'm sure he loves you and cares for you, but these OW's feed his ADD brain. Since I obvoiusly don't know all the depts of your H, try reading "Is it You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?" by Gina Pera and see if it fits for him (or at least try researching it online). Just another avenue to try, but the more knowledge you are equipped with, the stronger you will be. Maybe you can even use this non bill paying isuue and some knowledge of ADD to help him come to some understanding about what he's going thru and even springboard that to therapy. If he knows that its just a fixable (or at least controllable) problem, maybe he'll be more willing to get help then to just go to some therapist and "talk about his feelings" as the stigma goes. Just some thoughts...