Things That Matter

[fightingirish]

((((nc))) Sorry about my lateness in all of this but I will sum up..

I HATE it when people say that you should feel a certain way. It is absoultey fine that you are angry you have a right to be, and frankly knowone has the right to tell you how your Supposed to feel.

I do believe in comprimise.. but You are the one doing ALL of the comprising.. it takes its toll.

This place is for venting, not judging anyone. None of us are in the same exact situation, so we don't know how we would act. Some of us can tolerate more than others, some of us have higher moral standards than others.. Some of us have been going through this a lot longer than others have. Its all relative.

Please do not stop posting... I believe what you want is to be able to vent without being judged, just for someone to listen, and if so that is OK.

It irritates me when others think they know better, or how they could do it "better" that's not what being on here is about... Ive been at this since July 1996 and all I have ever wanted from this board is support and encouragement, not judgement or condemnment.

I may not always agreed with you, and I have let you know my opinion, but it is not necessary to make the other person feel like they are "not supposed to feel anger" because after everything you have been through, I wouldn't honestly wonder if you didn't feel anger. Of course you know that it has to be kept in check, and try to minimize the stuff when your sons are around, but you already know that, no need to go into that.

when feelings come into play, its a different ball game. It would be easier for me to tell you what you should do, but doing just that is easier said than done, when you are the one going through it.

You have given me tremedous support here, and have been a good friend to me for these past years.. I don't want to see you go. That's sounds a bit selfish, but I think you have helped many of us just not me and would be sad if you go. You are a wonderful Father and Friend and tried so hard to save your marriage, I only want good things for you.

T