Trying to move on

[ClingingToHope]

I'm feeling better today. By next Thursday I should be OK. The conferences are more about the girls than anything else. They'd be really disappointed if I skipped them.

Couple of things I'm thinking about today -- time is on my side. Each day I'll get a little stronger and, since I've been dealing with the financial problems now for 10 months, I'll get more of a plan in place on how to move forward. W? She never really thought this through and each day really gets more difficult.

Another weird thing -- and this may be counterintuitive -- but I've been reading other forums like BobbiJo's where once the D is final there is some peace and actually some opportunity because eligible people are waiting for you to actually be divorced.

Don't worry, I'm not pining to remarry right away. But when I think about W, I try to stop and think about somebody on Match that would be interesting to meet. I think I've favorited 30 or so that are my type and would be nice to talk to.

Hey, whatever works mentally.

I've also adjusted how I talk to D10. Initially, when she would ask if I'm going to get remarried, I'd right away say yes.

She seemed to accept that.

Now, she keeps asking, I tell her that I'll probably get married again some day, but it's likely not going to be for a while because whoever I find has to be perfect for me and D7 and D10. Who knows, that could be W again, you never know.

She likes that answer a lot better. And really so do I. I'd hate to jump into something where all of a sudden I have to weigh a new GF's interests versus the girls' interests.

Who wins in that situation? No one really.