I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[talia]

The Men on this board are nothing like our WAH's!!!! You WANT to stay married and committed!!! We love you for that!

The waves definately become gentler over time - and spaced farther apart too! I think the "feel through it" advice I got from my first IC was the ONE THING (if there can be one) that really helped me deal with everything. I would be a basketcase without those coping mechanisms.

I read all the way through "Love Must Be Tough" last night - start to finish!! Its a good book if you can deal with the whole Dobson/FoF stuff! It helped me be more sure in my latest approach and NOW I see where alot of the advice on these boards fits. I had heard so much of the tolerate it, fix you, make yourself the perfect wife for him stuff over the last year with H starting down the A path. I did it all and look where I am. If I had stood up right away when he started his first EA maybe things would be different. Funny how we can look back and see things so clearly.

Thank goodness I've found my dignity and self respect!!!!
On to "How can I forgive you" lets hope that one sheds some new light on this hatred I'm feeling lately!!!

Unconditional tough love and hate.... not as easy to decipher as one would think... well at least we will have something to talk about in IC today!!!

Have a great day all!!

T