My H, came home too soon a long long time ago. Neither of us were ready. We did it for the wrong reasons. His crisis wasn’t over. My journey hadn’t even begun.
Take your time with this. If I was in your shoes, I think I would see if you could start with dating, and maybe counseling if you are both willing. Three months and reevaluate.
If you let him come home and nothing is different…
Then his fear of IT being the same, will be realized.
You don’t want that. He doesn’t want that.
Piecing is harder than the crisis. If you aren’t ready for it, it can be a dismal failure. I hate to be the negative nancy, but I really believe time and patience are on your side.
Maybe right now, an agreement that neither of you will throw around the D word for a while, just to take that fear off of the table, and brutal honesty that you are trying, you know it won’t be easy, you really do want this to be different and better and you KNOW it is not going to happen overnight.
Just some thoughts….
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
