Yes, also you need to think about what Jack wrote. Your old M is dead. You can build a new one but you have to start thinking about that. This is the hard part. (in case you thought what you went through wasn't hard)
I'll recommend a book I just read. The five love languages by Gary Chapman. If things settle down with your H maybe you can both read it and take the test at the end. But don't push anything right now.
