I suppose it might have been better to cheerfully offer her help, get her coffee, ect...
I just don't know. Any thoughts?
I understand your feeling b/c I am living that now as well. But, where di being the "nice, friendly guy" get you? You are on the right course - just stick with it.
It feels weird, I know. But, at this point, it isn't about her. It's about YOU. AndNC gives you a way to protect yourself and give her a dose of reality of what her new life will be like.
I am NOT suggesting you turn into an a$$ (I don't think you could). Just only speak when spoken to, and only when you fell like it.
