Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

I definitely get what you are saying, but I think that might be a little too harsh given where we are now. I feel like we are in the "dating" stage, which I am ok with as long as progress continues to be made. He is finally drawing to me and desiring to do things, so I don't want to push him away either. So my thought was, (so I'm not being to pushy and just saying this is what we are doing) is to kind of feel him out next time we hang out and see if he had any ideas about what he would like to do for our anniversary and if not, throw out some of my ideas and monitor his response. If positive response, I'll go ahead with it, but if he seems reserved, I'll just step back. I would be let down if he didn't want to do anything, but I don't want to push on him to do just what I want to do. Hopefully, we can work together on a idea that we would both enjoy. Maybe he can use some of his "connections" again. =P So, I'll probably feel like one out this weekend.

So H left before I got there to pick up S tonight, but I guess he had other "committments". I was just looking forward to seeing him though. He did send me a text though shortly after letting me know he had put my license that I had left with him from the weekend in S's bag. I thanked him and that was that. I am struggling if I should start to be more opening affectionate with him. Like when we were dating and in early marriage, I used to always text him good night. Now I don't know if he would appreciate something like that or be completely turned off by it. Hard to know. =\ There's definitely a lot of second guessing in these DB mind games. I'll probably just let it go for now and see what tomorrow brings...

Oh, and in other good news, talked to MIL and when H was there today, she set up an appt for him tomorrow the the dr. That will be the first step in him getting the referral to the ENT dr. Yay! Hope it all goes well!