Time and consistent actions from FFG and from yourself will show you if there is anything to fear...doesn't sound like it so far though!
Here's the problem with that:
I had that for 15 years with STBXH. He was a good H for alll those years... no red flags, until 3 years ago.
Yeah, I'd like to say the same, but I just had selective vision...
OK, then, in your case...
Can you just let it be? Go forward eyes wide open, knowing it could end, but enjoying it while it lasts? Honestly I am not sure if I could. I get awfully attached...but if everything is going well now, no need to 'borrow trouble', right?
I'm getting attached and not with out a good reason. I guess I can't/ shouldn't worry about the broken heart thing. I have survived one before I can do it again. Yeah, I am not going to borrow trouble.
He drove 40 min one way to see me before classes today... but we had two hours. He texts me off and on through out the day and I just got one that said "I just wanted to tell you I was thinking about how wonderful and beautiful you are."
See what I'm dealing with here! I'm powerless to resist the charm!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Oh, I would so be into that if it happened to me! I couldn't resist either!
Although I guess there is no use resisting it. To find love again requires risk, and I know I want to have love again, so taking the risk comes with the territory!
How sweet, texting how wonderful you are...sigh...
Had a great V'day... Gourmet chocolates, pretty pink, purple, and red tulips. Fine dining at an Italian Restaurant. Very, very nice. I let him come pick me at my house, so the kids got to meet him for a few minutes.
Just a good way to break the ice. I couldn't have gone out in a fancy dress on V'day without them knowing and I wasn't going to lie. So, he has met the kids.
Survived that, and the initial result was positive. Take it slow from there.
Interestingly, my L called today. It seems STBXH lawyer is sitting on his thumbs because (now sit down for this one) STBXH told his L and his L told my L who told me that STBXH said " He loves me and doesn't want the divorce." I seriously bust out laughting when she told me this.
I said "you really don't believe that do you? Don't you think he would tell me that and not a L instead. He is just trying to stall because he doesn't want to pay for it." I'm not sure why that matters though... because I am paying for it out of my alimony money.
Geesh.... he has also shared with our D that he has three girls stalking him (meaning ... they like him) and told her they are pretty and call all the time but he doesn't want a relationship at all. Why is he sharing that BS with her? Really the very few moments he sees them every week, he can't let the "stalker" go to VM?
Batchit crazy!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
<<I had that for 15 years with STBXH. He was a good H for alll those years... no red flags, until 3 years ago.>>
I hear you loud and clear....like I said on my thread, there are no guarantees....none. Enjoy each other's company....have fun. After going through what we have here, it is normal I think to be a little hesitant.
In spite of the fact that you are downplaying your X's remarks, I have to admit that I do not know your whole history but it is indeed a very interesting statement to make to anybody.
Granted I do not have a hotttt tulip-bearing fireman wooing me....
But I would have been intrigued by your almost-x's comments...although I agree, he should be telling you that and better yet, SHOWING you that, if it were true...
OK I confess I am a tiny bit jealous...NOT of the comments, but of the Valentine's date!
STBXH told his L and his L told my L who told me that STBXH said " He loves me and doesn't want the divorce."
How romantic.
God, I know.. just what I've been waiting for!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Granted I do not have a hotttt tulip-bearing fireman wooing me....
But I would have been intrigued by your almost-x's comments...although I agree, he should be telling you that and better yet, SHOWING you that, if it were true...
OK I confess I am a tiny bit jealous...NOT of the comments, but of the Valentine's date!
He doesn't mean it, that I am 100% sure. It doesn't matter though because he delivered the final blow. I will never be his wife again.
The date was awesome... took lots of planning. He went all the way to Pike Place Fish Market to get the tulips fresh. Drove from Seattle all the way to his house, 90 minutes, back to my house 40 min, back to restuarant 40 min, back to my house 40 min, back to his house 40 min. I only had time to go out to dinner as my S was leaving at 4:15am the next am for a mission trip so I wanted to spend time with him. So he hung out here for a while with us. That's what it looks like. We usually split the driving. I had said I would drive out there or we could take my car once he got here and he said "No way, this is a special date... I do the honors for this one".
PS~ He is seriously HOT!
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M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Now, if you've been following along and read that STBXH has told his L that he "loves me and doesn't want the divorce". & I laughed at that to my A~ Proof is in the pudding.
Last night I got sent an email notificaiton about a post from a forum that STBXH belongs to for one of his Professional jobs... seems he posted the question:
H: Hey, does anyone know if XYZ airline (the one OW works for)has changed their policy on time off?
A few replies on this and then he posted:
H: Well, here's the deal... I am trying to see if someone is trying to pull a line of BS on me. BEcause I know before you could string days together for time off .... now they are saying that policy has changed.
Ok... for OW to come here she needs some time off because she lives on the other side of the world. Evidently she was telling STBXH the truth... the policy has changed and she can't string together as many days off as she used to.
His Karma is that he can't believe her and her Karma is he thinks she is liar so much that he post questions on a BB to see if she's telling the truth!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHhhh match made in Hell! Good thing she's not in the picture!
Oh yeah, I forgot he "loves me"!
What a dork!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
I couldn't resist either!
