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I don't think I'm capable of doing ALL the work without resentment. I WANT to...but I don't know if I can.


that's why you need to start taking away the negativity by GALing and focusing on yourself and focusing on only positive things.

and I know your a christian, and you need to focus on HIM. Look at your H with God's eyes, not your own.

if you WANT to do this, then make a choice to step out and do it. just wanting to do it will get you nowhere, and you know that.

and hey, do you remember me saying I cheated on my H?? I never loved my H the way he needed it either, and instead of building him up, I pushed him down. so me, a darn good person? no, but I have a merciful God who has taught me a lot thru hardship and struggles.

NOW, yes, you've been knocked down, but do you have understanding of how your H has felt knocked down? It is looking at our spouse with God's eyes, merciful and with compassion and understanding that we can let go of our bitterness.


Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."