Well fellow DBing friends, my H and I are suppose to meet tomorrow to do taxes and to "spend time together". I am not sure what that really means. He asked me if I had anything else planned for us to do.
Well, I have an appt with a L tomorrow morning (early.. 8:30). My H said he will arrive by 11:30 ( I am not holding out that he will even show on time). I am really nervous about meeting with him, because this is only the 3rd time I would have seen him since he left.
My issue is me (and I know it is me) allowing him to manipulate me...I have to not let that happen. He is the one who cheated....not me. Why do I feel bad? The only thing I feel regret for is how I handled the discovery of his OW. I yelled, I was angry, I was plain upset and he knew it. But he used that as the excuse to "validate" his seeking out someone else. Coming home to an "angry wife". . . . What is that?
Okay, I can feel myself becoming agitated. Okay....help me out.. How should I approach the H when he arrives? I will try to be happy and just plain upbeat. No sign of issues, just really excited about life right? "Act as if"... I think that is GAL'ing.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
