feel like giving up - talk to me!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

but luv, what your not getting is that what he is doing is by the book! this is what they do! that is why Michelle has written this great book and for those that take heed and really learn, many of them find themselves in a greater M than before.

but those that do don't do it in a week, or a month, it takes months and sometimes years. for me, from the beggining of the A to the very very end of it, it was almost a year exactly. from when it started to when he wanted me back for sure, was about 6 months.

I am not giving your H credit, I am trying to get you to reward good behavior. why is hanging out with you for 4 hours not a good thing???? and even if he was being selfish, he's wanted to do that with YOU. He didn't drop you off at home and leave and find someone else to go there with.

I know you think you can't see hope, but I see a HUGE amount. I've been there and done it, both sides. you don't need a ton of things your H is doing right in order to have hope. there was nothing my H was giving me at one time. He had NO love for me, but I had a vision, and that vision was to save my M, and in the meantime I learned to save myself.

you know what my goal was to see if my H was coming around? for him to look at me. for him to ask what am I doing, or where am I going. for him to stay home for dinner instead of go to his friends house to spend the night.

how long did it take for those things to happen? not in a day, not in a week.

I can't fix this all by myself there has to be TWO people working in a marriage.

you have to stop your negativity. this is why you cannot succeed because you believe you won't. and no it does NOT take two people to fix your M. I know. I did it all by myself.

and YOU CAN TOO.