My ex left 8.5 years ago. My drama should be finished by now - you'd think so. But with Mid Life Crisis - you just never know.
I have sole custody of our 3. Brandon was starting college when his dad left so he stayed at home and maintained a bit of contact with his dad. He is on his own now and sees him a couple of times a year.
Ashley became a teenager the week her dad left (the week of 9-11) Initially he saw her once or twice a week. Never to PARENT - just to take her out. Never spent money on her. Always gave as little $ as humanly possible. Their R has been difficult. She still tries to see him but he verbally buses her at times and cancels often and it is becoming infrequent.
Then there is Ryan. He is severely disabled and lives at home with me. I have nurse helpers but look after him at night. His father sees him every other week for an hour according to our agreement. He often cancels. I do not let him make it up if he does. If we cancel due to Ryan's illness - I do allow him to reschedule. It has always been this way except prior to our agreement - then he rarely saw him.
5 Years after signing our agreement he is angry that he can't see him when he cancels on him. He is threatenting to go to his lawyer and fight for more visitation since he thinks once or twice a month is not enough. He told my daughter that tonight. She was upset. Says "Well - he leftt - what did he think?"
Ryan has many health issues. I take care of it all. He does absolutely nothing to help with Ryan's care or financially. He often is rude to Ryan's nurses who do not like him at all. It is becoming harder to transport Ryan and even he struggles to get him into his car where all he does is drive him around for an hour. I would rather see the nurses meet him in a public place like the mall or a park in summer so he can take him for a walk in his chair.
Has anyone encountered a similar problem? Does anyone have any suggestions? Do you think he is just blowing hot air?
