Honestly, my reaction has truly taken me by surprise. I've been in a R with my W for nearly two decades, and been completely faithful.
That's your integrity.
Originally Posted By: awoken
There is an opportunity here for me to understand my W's EA, and PA if there is one. Some of the angst I'm feeling is some part guilt, for what? but really the worst is realizing how empty my M has become and how my emotional needs have not been met for a long time. This is something like how my W feels. I knew this already, but it's something else to experience it.
That's your empathy and compassion.
Originally Posted By: awoken
It also says something about my co-dependence, and need for companionship. I need to focus on myself and my kids.
I still go back to the original definition of co-dependent that has been so widely co-opted and over/misused: A co-dependent is one who enables, excuses, covers up for, facilitates, etc., a substance abuser's addiction. That is not you.
Oh, and, "...need for companionship." That is a basic human need. I'd be worried if you didn't have it and feel it deeply.
You're a good man, Awoken. I know. I've seen him and listened to him. Lighten up on yourself a bit, okay?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
