Hi hitter, I'm sorry you need to be here, but glad you found our community.
Even though I'm not very experienced, I'm posting for you because I remember the courage it takes to make that first post, and then the pain waiting for just someone to respond. Keep in mind that many are reading what you post and thinking of you, even if they don't post replies.
You are the first I've seen here that is not married to his WA, and I don't know how that effects the advise learned and given here. Nonetheless, have you gotten the "divorce remedy" book yet? I think the principles in there would apply to your situation too. I suggest you get that book right away; and don't share it with your GF. It is for your eyes only.
Try to read as many threads here as you can. I wish I had done more of that when I first got here. Many of your questions will have already been answered in great detail.
You need to take good care of yourself! Be sure you eat, drink, and get sleep when you can. Exercise can help with the sleep. The better care you take of yourself, the clearer you will be able to think and handle yourself.
Hang in there.
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