It boggles my mind how he continues to do nothing, though, even when I fully agreed to D over lunch.
He might be reconsidering if he wants to take this step. I've been told to set my M goals - what do I want.
Consider carefully these days if your subject line has been forgotten because of fear or pain. If not, and you are sure, just don't rush. You have the rest of your life to enjoy and remember the work you do these months, as well as the consequences of it.