No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

25yearsmlc,

Oh I know you don't mean "wacky" in that sense. I really think the depression happened after the birth of each of the kids. She had a low point after our first D was born. She casually mentioned that she could see herself as a single parent. At that time I asked her why and she said she wasn't sure. She never brought it up again, so I just thought it was an offhand comment. That was 5 years ago. Then after the birth of our second D, she started her EA. I think it grew just before she even turned 1.

So I think it is hormonal or maybe a sign of post-partum, but she won't get help because she doesn't feel there's anything wrong with her.

The biggest thing for me was probably not listening to her more. I tended to try and convince her to do things that maybe she wasn't willing to do. Of course, she could have told me she didn't want to do these things, but she held it all in.

She's the type that would get angry at me about something but wouldn't tell me until a couple of days later. By then I'd have to figure out what she was talking about. There was alot of mind reading on my part because she generally didn't like conflict or to say when something bothered her. Heck I thought we were pretty happy up until she dropped the bomb. I mean she initiated sex, we had the usual casual talks, etc. Then when she dropped the bomb, even though we lived together, she stopped sex cold turkey, was nasty, angry all the time, mood swings, etc.

At first I figured it was because of the OM, which I'm sure was what started it. But he's not really in the picture any more relationship wise and she still gets into these bouts of extreme mood swings.

So when she does open up, I engage more than I used to. Aside from that, I've never really been out of shape, but I've been working out more because of all my free time. I've been doing little side jobs here and there and am a pretty good cook on the side. I've always been the one to whom my friends would go to when they needed advice. When I thought my W was pulling away, I would tell her that it's ironic that everyone feels they can come to me to talk except for her.