I get that IT is the marriage, and yes it scares the schit out of me...I dont want to go in a circle and make the same mistakes...neither of us do...
a better way to put it is that yes, we have both blamed each other and ourselves...we have never really had a conversations about specifics...just the biggies that were constantly thrown back and forth...
i dont want to be reactive...im still in ic and working in that and myself in general
how can i approach anything? if its not all out on the table...how are we ever going to be able to get through it?
i wish i had more time too in a way...the last thing i want is to EVER be in a situation like this again...for us, our marriage our children...
if we are being given this chance and we both want to take it...i DO NOT want to be in a hurry, i dont want to screw it up...i want it...ALL OF IT to be better than it ever was...in many ways!
I have learned alot from my mistakes and im sure i will continue to learn...im not sure if h feels the same way without knowing how to bring the subject up...
btw...no offense taken! if anyone knows how harmful my reactions can be it is me...
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
