H4L, I called H on his bird droppings this morning. I was calm and quiet but he crossed a line and he backed off when I called him on it. I think it has to come from a place of valuing oneself enough to not tolerate stuff. But then not fighting back either. I haven't been very good at that...in our M I put up with a lot of H cutting me down, and reacting defensively rather than assertively.
Can you draw up strength *and* love when your H does stuff like that, and let them both guide you?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
