I have no idea what is happening in my W's OM sitches. Is there one, two or three or more or none? So happily ever after maybe an illusion. Can't concern myself with though.
Your right, you can't concern yourself with that. Easier said than done, I know. Lately, if I find myself imagining whether she is with OM or out or having the time of her life or whatever, I force myself to remember that she too has the waves of sadness and of lost dreams and hopes and all the same things that you do. It is just that she is self medicating with OM or going out or whatever and we all know that like any addicting substance, drugs, food, sex etc. the high starts to wear off. Now that she is "free" to indulge in the "medication" the highs will be shorter and shorter and I would be willing to bet that with time you will see something that indicates this.
We the LBS's need to medicate by making the real changes in ourselves that make us better people, better parents, and maybe one day better spouses whether it with our WAS's or not.
BTW, Congrats on the drinking thing. I enjoy a drink once or twice a week now but not like I used to. If I had to guess things like that seem easy compared with dealing with the "waves".
Have a great time with your kids tonight.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
