I've been having chest pains as well. I play basketball and weigh what I did in college so I shouldn't be having them. The stress and anxiety is amazing.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
The anxiety sucks. I still get that feeling sometimes when I look at my phone and see X's number. And yes, sharing kids makes it so much worse.....I cannot just cut free of X completely because of the kids.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Why is it that after I have decided to put my sitch worries away in a box for now, I'm having nightmares of stbx and our cat (that is staying with him) every night?
Sorry about that. I know I was super pissed when I had dreams like that. How dare he interrupt my beauty sleep!! Just try to shake it off and move on with the day.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
I make use of anti-a meds that the doc prescribed. I will be working more on "mindfulness sitting" (basically meditation) and hopefully that will help, too.
Keep breathing, is what they all advise.
I can't even imagine how all of you with kids manage to keep it together. Totally amazing.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
I need to forgive. I don't want to carry that load anymore. I thought I've forgiven, but my threads prove the opposite. I don't know how to do it. There was a thread on forgiveness somewhere, but I cannot find it.
I feel again that I need to sue him for illegal eviction. I wasn't going to do it, because it will cost me a lot of money and effort, and there's no tangible benefit for me as a result. I won't get paid if I win.
But I feel like I'm not standing up for myself and letting it slide. Plus it sets up a bad example for other men. They will know they will get away with it, so they would do it more eagerly.
Sometimes keeping more $$ doesn't equal doing the best for yourself. Something to think about.