One day at a time....

[gutwrenching]

Rocked -
I really empathise with you...in high profile jobs, are very private people, my stomach turns at the thought of it becoming public where we work. I also know that chances are high, no matter how my sitch turns out, my career will take a hit. It is what it is, we take risks for the more important things in life. Your risk paid off.

I like the Ann Landers approach provided too you...I think it would minimize the pain. Yes H should face consequences, but right now it seems he has owned up to the consequences, and maybe the two of you don't need another outside distraction to deal with while you are piecing. You are so strong that I know you will get thru this no matter how the two of you decide to handle it. I think a key is the two of you decide together...turn this into a positive step as you bond even closer to develop an approach and then survive thru what will be a little fallout. Chances are, the fallout isn't going to be near as great as your mind is thinking right now.

In the end, never forget, you are still the winner. You got the ultimate prize, you may have lost things along the way, but you not only finished the marathon, you won it, while the others fell out along the way.