This is a generational cycle in this woman's family that I feared I would experience.
My wife has always followed the pattern of her own mother. Both had wild sexual behavior as children and teens. Both got pregnant multiple times, abortions, adoptions. Wife has an elder sibling who was not the bio child of her father. It's like history repeating itself.
Wife's bio dad, who adopted her brother, has been literally broken by the woman he did the favor for, in the same way my wife is attempting with me. She divorced him. He's now dejected and mentally unbalanced on the other side of town, with little contact from his own kids (wife included).
My mother-in-law went bar hopping from her late 30s onward. She was a gold-digger who broke up two different marriages, stealing the husband's inheritance. She has a large farm from the first marriage. Her victim's biological children complain about her still. Her second victim was a fellow who she met in a bar. I considered him my father-in-law until he died a couple of years ago. She got his pension and his savings and is quite wealthy now.
It's a sick situation, and I'm most frantic now to save D15 from taking the dysfunction to a third generation. Whether I'll be able to get through to her is an open question, but she seems to sympathize with me.
Our son, 13, sympathizes with me totally. Wife treats him the way she treats me. He begs me not to leave, to take him with if I go, etc.
I appreciate this board. This is such a strange scenario I'd almost be hard-pressed to believe it if it weren't happening to me.
M:40 W:40 2 teenagers ILYBNILWY: 09 January 2010 soon to be walking away my situation
