Should I try what Dotty said, or keep with what I've been doing? All thoughts and suggestions welcome!
I would go with what's been working:
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Last night was a good night. Older boys had bball game. Both did well. Got home and we all did valentines cards together for school. W and I watched TV for a while after kids went to bed. She asked if I was coming to bed, I said I wanted to watch the rest of the news, would be there in a while. She came over and kissed me goodnight. First time in a while she sought me out. I stayed and watched the news and messed aroung for about an hour and went to bed. All in all a good night.
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I took kids to church and religion class. Got home @ noon, had doughnuts, as always after church, and they wanted to go eat at a restaurant. I said maybe we can surprise Mom at work and take her out to eat. They thought that was great. Older boys wanted to stop and buy Mom some flowers. We did, and went to her work and she was very surprised. Of course, said we shouldn't have bought flowers but seemed happy to have us (kids?) there. Went to eat and had a good time. After kids went to bed and were asleep, she came over, kissed and hugged me, said thanks for the flowers and bringing the kids for lunch. I said, you're welcome, it was a nice day for the family, and told her goodnight. Really wanted more but left it at that and was "happy" about it. Don't know if that is still pursuing, but seemed to work well.
Seems to me she responds best when you are neither overly pursuing, nor overly cold/distant?
