My Story...grass is greener (pt 2)

[MrBond]

"How can you get along with someone that doesnt want to get along?"

You figure it out. But start by deciding to figure it out.

"she's not really speaking to me and is nothing but hostile towards me...and in turn all that does is make me angry towards her."

HELLO! Did you read anything anyone posted to you? She's hostile towards you because you keep prodding her. Did you actually read DR? First thing is to STOP with the R talks. But you just can't do that. And THAT is what's pissing her off. YOU.

"If she would snap out of this crap and get over stuff...things would be fine...but she isnt willing."

Be honest with yourself. THINGS WILL NOT BE FINE because you haven't changed at all. All of the issues she had with you have not been addressed. Why should things go back to the way they were when she hated that? Both of you need to change, but it starts with ONE person.

"Now there is no deal...and nothing I can say will get her to drop her act."

There is no act. You have it in your head that she's been "changing" the arrangement. From what you've posted, she didn't do anything but respond to how you were acting towards her. And you haven't been compromising with her. Saying that you are going to do something and EXPECT her to do something in return is not compromise.

Dude the way your M was is over. The sooner you get that in you the better. Even if you get back together it will be different than it was before.

Your D is seeing the both of you look like two spoiled kids going at it. Be the adult for a change and be that role model again.

In your case, I would strongly not recommend you find someone else because the amount of drama you're bringing onto yourself is going to be carried into that new R. And your D is going to see all that drama and think that's normal. How about bringing some stability first in you and go from there.