I like the beating I'm taking. I'm good at taking beatings... I did 9 years of surgical training. this makes me a first class masochist. I think deep down perhaps we get taught to like taking a beating because we think its sposed to make us better
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She might have taken your boys with her...but she went with your blessing. And now your saying that she just took them...and that isn't accurate based upon your earlier posts.
Ok, well, yes. You are right. I did let her go. but she basically said, "this is the only chance you've got". I believe now that it was a bluff... but I was focused on her and not them, and I let them go. I'm not sure now what would have happened if I had said no... interesting to think about. So to be true, you are right, I let her go with my blessing.
but she said we would work it out, do weekends together, all of these things that she did not end up doing. the next three weekends I was on call she did not come down... so in some ways if I had known how it was going to really be I'm not sure I would have been so acquiescent... don't know. doesn't really matter now.
She might have taken your boys with her...but she went with your blessing. And now your saying that she just took them...and that isn't accurate based upon your earlier posts.
Ok, well, yes. You are right. I did let her go. but she basically said, "this is the only chance you've got".
Yes…but…
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I believe now that it was a bluff... but I was focused on her and not them,
Yes… But…
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So to be true, you are right, I let her go with my blessing. but she said we would work it out, do weekends together, all of these things that she did not end up doing.
Yes…but…
Bradley, there comes a time in all of our lives where we have to recognize our part in things, own our mistakes, and make a choice….
That choice really is simple.
Are you going to keep blaming her and other people for your unhappiness and things you are lacking or are you going to take actions to make your life different?
Up to you, man or mouse?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Being that I am a single guy on the prowl, I can safely say that I am a BUTT person. At age 50, finding someone that has not been infected with OBD is difficult.
Look just take a deep hard look at yourself, what do you like and what don't you like about you, throw in some hard looks from complete strangers, who despite evidence to the contrary, actually only want you to be the best you.
Kill the crap you do not like. Kill it.
Do. No Talk.
and...
no more buts...its placating.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
