TTA, imagine that he asked you if you called. You'd say yes. He'd say why or wonder why.

Even if you did end off with a D, don't you have a 1/2 year or longer to wait first from Jan? I just don't see the rush unless you are making decisions. You don't have children to worry about, you don't have tons of property, he is being a gentleman and it sounds like you are too. What is the point of the laywer now? If my W said she went, I'd be worried and want to go, too, but I have 5 kids and a huge mortgage with a wife that doesn't drive or work. Financially and emotionally, I could be in a real jam.

Your situtation on these boards is unique - you are changing, there isn't an affair, he's shown remorse and gone to counselling, and more...all withing a very short time.

Would that help you meet YOUR goals?