mb, I think taking that phone message was not the worst thing in the world-it didn't "ruin" anything! In the future, just tell them "Could you please call him at his work number to get new contact info? He is no longer at this number. I believe his work number should be in your records, right?"
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004