Question for you... are you coming here to actually get help, or just a place to log your frustrations? You've been given AMAZING advice by SO many people here. We all have to take what we're given and adjust, but you don't take ANY of it, and then come back and whine about the treatment you've taken, again.
It's frustrating.
OK, if this is his (HOW MANY TIME) that he comes home late? WHAT DID YOU DO ABOUT IT?
OK, if he, AGAIN, treated you cold and distant, etc... WHAT DID YOU DO ABOUT IT?
Etc, Etc, Etc... You're right to have a sick feeling. You're ALLOWING yourself to be a victim.
YUK
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.