Here's how it happens. For instance last Saturday, S11 was with me. Gym Woman and I went to his hockey game and then Gym Woman offered to take us to dinner in New York along with her D19 who goes to college in NYC. We drove about an hour to Manhatten, went to a nice restaurant and went home. S11 had a great time, as did the rest of us. I'm sure he went home and told STBX all the details. Whatever.