Its all of us to a T... trust me I don't know anyone on this forum who hasn't enabled their parnter's affair to a degree.. I don't konw anyone here who has affair-busted with perfect execution..we all fall back and coddle and help our spouses continue this wretched behaviour because we love them and when they show they aer hurting we want to help and don't know any better...
Parents do this to their children too.. its NOT good for them...
Do NOT enable your husband's affair.. its NOT going to end it.. and I think that is what you want is the affair OVER... that's not going to happen until your husband grows up.. I think you can see yoru uncle was actually helping you now... your unhcle wasn't going to enable your husband one inch... he stood firm.. and so should you
YOur husband's suffering a lot of shame right now, but its his bed... let him clean it up or hide under teh covers... you can't do it for him.. just sit back and tell him its his room and he has to clean it up... don't let him TRICK you ok?