As long as you understsnd what your H's doing... becuase he WILL do it again, you didn't get him get away with it the first time, but this time he played you...

I would call your uncle up and THANK HIM for speaking UP for you.. and encourage him to CONTINUE.. its pressue on your H to END this sleazy affair... your uncle did a brave and kind thing there.. you should be PROUD of him

re your H being a good father, I suppose its a debatable point, but I honestly find being a good father means being a good HUSBAND.. the two are heavily interrelated.. are you honestly telling me a man who cheats on his children's mother.. KNOWINGly and deliberatley in the OPEN for weeks on END is being a good father? I am quite skeptical on that one...

I am not condeming your husband here...

I am measuring his ACTIONS..who HE is as a man we are due to find out soon... but right NOW he's BEHAVING badly in my option both as a father and as a husband he's failing miserably...

I would be thanking your Uncle.. you have no idea how many people just TURN their HEADS when affairs are happening and say NOTHIGN.. your uncle took a brave stand in protecting you... and I think you should be diong the same...

NEVER let your H play you like that again.. He is attacking his OWN family and HOME right now... your H needs to face his choices, own the damage he's done, and start acting like a man nd PROTECT his home.. instead right now he's allowing your uncle to protect your home FOR hima nd WHINING that he is implicated in being part of the hosuehold's problem...

Your H's bheaviour IS problematic right now... but he isn't owning that..he's makig excuses and playing the victim still... he's going to do that for a while yet I imagine.. don't let him take advantage of your generosity or warmth ... shut him OUT in the cold... let him freeze... that's how he grows up ok?

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And be sure you thank your uncle and encourage him to continue harassing your H into manning-up to his choices and protecting your family... your HUSBAND should be protecting his HOME, its embarassing that your uncle has to step in to do what your HUSBAND should be doing... see?

I applaud your uncle... HE is a MAN