You're a good dad and a good man to be so attentive.
There's a part in the Divorce Remedy book about forgiving yourself if you've given all you can possibly give. It really struck home with me. You've done a lot for this woman. You went through Hell with her. You tell a poignant story about it. Whatever you decide to do, I'm sure it will be for the best, for you and your kids.
Good Luck,
Crushed
Hi Crushed-
Thanks for your kind words. I am trying to be a good Dad. The worst part is, the better Dad I become, the more I miss my kids!
I am working on forgiving myself, and I'm making progress. I know she failed me in our M too, even before her A started. She harbored deep resentment about things that happened early in our R, but she didn't talk about them. Her resentment came out in a myriad of ways, all of which were damaging to our M, but none were honestly dealing with the problem. My failure was that I didn't provide her a safe avenue to express herself.
I am increasingly undecided what would be best for me. I know what would be best for the kids.
