In any event I certainly am not trying to fix any of the above events but I am trying to understand what MY condition means and what if anything I should do about it.
I have learned that when my wife talks about 'problems' she is looking for me to listen...not offer advice, not offer solutions. Most of the time.
To that end, when she does start talking about her problems, I end up asking her if she wants me to listen or offer advice after so I know what she is expecting of me.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
