I saw your question on the MLC board on wanted to answer. With kids I really feel NC is just about impossible....the same with going super dark. What I did was break up the world into three parts....My world which I did not share and was not asked to share...the kids world which I shared limited info (Didn't share dr's appointments times...just did them, etc....but would share if the kids needed new medication...basically the stuff that was REAL important I shared...stuff she missed by not being here...her problem), and then her world. I didn't pursue it and listened when she wanted to talk and validated....I let her come to me and accepted it friendly.
