Get busy TTA! Do something that will take your mind off everything. Immerse yourself in a movie or go out with girlfriends who will talk your ear off about their lives.
Remember that this process is about YOU, not H.
Talk to the lawyer. It doesn't mean you have to do anything. But a smart woman will be prepared for anything and knowledge is power.
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