Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[flowmom]

Thanks for sharing your DB session with us newmama. Like you say, a real combination of reassuring and scary.

4)when WH drops comments that elude to divorced life in the future (i.e. day care comment, taxes, etc.) then to note that it could be something triggered him to make those comments;like he is using them to establish distance between us

I think this is so true! When I look back I see that with my H.

5) He assured me that "acting happy" might give WH the impression that I am happy and be prepared for him to say "I'm glad you are getting on with your life; you seem happy so let's divorce."

But that was good because you don't want a spouse to come back to you out of obligation or guilt; like if he couldn't D me because he thought it would cause me too much pain.So he returns but is not in it 100%; is miserable.

I need to remind myself of this.

About the crickets...I have your thread in "Watched" but for some reason it doesn't appear on my watch list so I don't see when someone has posted to it . Feel free to let me know in my thread if you want feedback.

Take care and be strong.