flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[newmama]

3. we were interacting outside of our home, which is a very hard place for H to be right now (feels guilty? bad memories?).

WHOA- I think you could be onto something, Flow! In your case, what if your home represents stress, angst, hardships...when I read that I thought of how I hated living in my home as a teenager due to family dsyfunction/divorce at the time and anywhere else felt great.

So maybe you can work with that somehow...arrange other meetings on some days to outside places? Excursions? I don't know...or (and maybe you already did this)
totally change the way your home looks. Refresh it and redecorate, declutter. HAHAHA I realize this is a tall order when you are a SAHM! How can you do that without time on your hands? Or something simple like adding plants and putting clutter in the closet temporarily...