This attitude is totally great, CB.

You are moving thru this process really well. Acknowledging, owning, and tolerating these feelings--yes, that's the growth part!

May I ask more about this concert? something you have planned a date for, and LB let you know she was going, too? Gearing myself up for the inevitable event-in-common.

I think you are handling the separation and new dating with great grace. You are having nice day dates, nothing too wild and heavy--nice for you and nice for the women you are seeing. Not too much pressure or expectations on anyone.

Again, good on ya!


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process