Personally for me- what helped was a secret deadline. I was all in, committed to working on the marraige but if by a certain date my hubby was still decided to be done than I would initiate a D. With the knowledge in my heart that I did everything I could to make the marriage work and would have peace in my heart about it. The deadline was the 2-3 years away when our youngest started kindergarten and our lives would be easier- I know a very long deadline but my hubby was still in the home and I felt most of our problems were parental stress and lack of sleep with a sick son... things bound to improve.
Last edited by june72; 02/17/1004:11 PM.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
