Things have been going much better the last couple of weeks. Much smoother and there's been a lot less external friction. We've had trademen giving quotes left, right and center so the house feels that something is happening and it isn't bogged down. Even the dogs been a lot better behaved - a minor miracle in itself.
The Relate appt hasn't happened yet - its next week - but we can see we are making a fair amount of progress without it. Fingers crossed for that.
S*x has been happening more frequently (yay!) and I definitely feel a lot happier and contented.
Valentines we both acted in almost 180's - DW gave me sex related vouchers(yay!) and I gave her the largest bunch of flowers I could find and went on a flower arranging spree.
I think we'll get there - we just need to avoid the inevitable backslide when the next external disaster hits.