My marriage was saved, but not by DB. I read the book, but I didn't do it that way. I don't think my H cared about details of affairs from me, and I wasn't interested in starting a conversation like that either. It didn't matter; we were even. He had cheated, I had cheated, but we both decided to be nice to each other and save the marriage. The other people and what went on with them didn't matter. One of the things that you both learn at Retrouvaille is - the past is the past, let it go. You can make your present nice; you can build your future. The bad of the past is forgotten.
